How come when you're hurt you say "I just want an apology." Really? Just that then you're fine? I am certain an apology would not be enough.
Y'know, some people are just too fucking courteous that they would know when to throw an apology. Okay, okay, a sorry would do... But just for petty things. Like accidentally stepping on my foot, pushing me hard out of the train, spilling your drink on me... Apologize and you'll be forgiven.
Getting really hurt is a different thing though. An apology would be nice, thank you for being courteous, but what you'd really be looking forward to is if the actions that will follow would match the apology.
I'm going to set an example that most might have gone through: someone important fooled you (lied or cheated or spread rumors, etc.). Would words, or in this case, would a single word suffice? You know it would not.
You'd look for actions.
Most popular "I'm (really) sorry" act would be (for an LQ, let's say): Standing outside his/her house waiting for him/her to pity you and take you back yada yada... Cause this has worked on a lot of movies, TVCs, and a lot of couples. Even I have done this. But still, for the person who got hurt, would that short span of suffering and shame be enough for you to forgive?
For a not-so-vengeful hearted person (like me.. HONEST), it would be easier to forgive. But if you were the person responsible for someone's pain, do know that wounds do not heal fast. Help heal the wound by taking proper action. Usually when we get really, really hurt, the need to be taken care of, to feel loved and important mutiplies by hundreds. It's just like taking care of a person who just got into a major car accident: being there in the hospital is different from really taking care of that person.
But still, it's better not to hurt anyone. In anyway. Whether you have a reasonable excuse or not. Just don't.
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